Well, I've disappeared for while....and now I'm back again.
What they say is true, the wedding bliss does take you up and away to far away places and it will take you some time before you come back down to earth.
So, that's where I've been and I came back down today...and it's nice.
Nice? What do you mean nice? Don't you want to live in that wedding bliss bubble forever?
No, not at all.
Because I realize it was getting a little bit weird.
In that world, everything is pink and pretty. Yes - pink. The sky is pink, hearts are everywhere and everyone congratulates you on the new life. They love your dress, they 'like' all your pictures on Facebook and they can't stop commenting on how you two are perfect for each other.
It's really the perfect thing........but overtime, it's sickening.
Chris and I sealed the deal on June 1st. It's now 2 weeks later and we are still dealing with comments and 'likes' on various social medias. It's finally starting to dissipate and I can finally stop being a bride and get back down to earth to being me.
Finally. It's tiring, honestly.
To this day, I still have yet to call Chris my husband. Other than to government officials for applying visas, filling out forms or answering calls, I have yet to say the magic word. I hesitate.
I know a lot of people who can't wait to adopt the new last name and begin calling each other hubby and wifey, but for me, husband and wife are loaded words -- super super heavy. I don't use them lightly.
So yes, I got married and things seemed to have changed, but much has remained the same. I often look and think, "What was this wedding all about? Did it add anything new to our relationship? What did it change? If it didn't happen, what would be different?"
*Sigh* I have a feeling I will never know the answer.
In the meantime, I am looking for a host in my couchsurfing adventure. I still have not managed to find anyone who will take us in in Paris, London, Amsterdam and Frankfurt.
Really do wish us luck in this department! We are traveling on a budget here!!
Friday, June 14, 2013
Thursday, June 6, 2013
Cool +
You know, I never thought I would end up being married.
I know I know, I've only been married for 6 days.....
But still, I never actually thought that this would happen to me. I never had a boyfriend until I was doing my PhD. I was never popular with the boys. I mean, they all pretty much looked right pass me, never really gave me a second look. I wast just never one of those girls, you know?
So, the fact that I'm at where I am today is quite amazing. I'm surprised myself. In fact, this whole thing has been quite amazing. The past 2 weeks have been like a dream. This was what I was thinking on the bus on my way to work this morning.
Not to brag or anything, but I have to admit that my life has been pretty cool so far.
And I hope it will continue to be that way for years to come.
I know I know, I've only been married for 6 days.....
But still, I never actually thought that this would happen to me. I never had a boyfriend until I was doing my PhD. I was never popular with the boys. I mean, they all pretty much looked right pass me, never really gave me a second look. I wast just never one of those girls, you know?
So, the fact that I'm at where I am today is quite amazing. I'm surprised myself. In fact, this whole thing has been quite amazing. The past 2 weeks have been like a dream. This was what I was thinking on the bus on my way to work this morning.
Not to brag or anything, but I have to admit that my life has been pretty cool so far.
And I hope it will continue to be that way for years to come.
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Missing in Taiwan
Sorry I've been postless for so long. The reason is that I flew to Taiwan on the 25th to get married. Well, I'm not exactly married yet, but Chris and I flew back a week early to get a few things ready and prepare for our wedding on June 1st.
One of which includes taking our wedding pictures. This is also the first time you see us. Hi World, sorry it took so long for us to gather the courage to show our face. However, as they say, first impression counts the most. So, here we are at our finest. I'm kidding, of course.
The photographer is Chris' friend and he, in particular, loves to take action shots - the jumping kind...so naturally, we jumped - or at least, I attempted to jump in my dress and all. Turned out okay, no?
This last one is sort of my favourite. We didn't anticipate we would end up with a series of shots like these. Chris and I bought these giant bows for Halloween last year and we thought we would simply bring them along just in case.
Well in this case, we put them to good use. What do you think?
So, here we are, 2 more days until the wedding and I have broke out in rash. These kinds of things always happen, don't they?
Wish us luck!
One of which includes taking our wedding pictures. This is also the first time you see us. Hi World, sorry it took so long for us to gather the courage to show our face. However, as they say, first impression counts the most. So, here we are at our finest. I'm kidding, of course.
The photographer is Chris' friend and he, in particular, loves to take action shots - the jumping kind...so naturally, we jumped - or at least, I attempted to jump in my dress and all. Turned out okay, no?
This last one is sort of my favourite. We didn't anticipate we would end up with a series of shots like these. Chris and I bought these giant bows for Halloween last year and we thought we would simply bring them along just in case.
Well in this case, we put them to good use. What do you think?
So, here we are, 2 more days until the wedding and I have broke out in rash. These kinds of things always happen, don't they?
Wish us luck!
Thursday, May 23, 2013
People are nosy
It's quite out of the blue....I opened my inbox a few days ago and found this email with the subject "Plan". I went on to open it and....
Dear Zooe,
How are you? I heard that you will be leaving our department after the contract ends, any new plan in your career?
Best,
xxx
xxx is one of the secretaries in our Department. I don't chit chat with her very often and for work purposes, we are in different areas (she manages postgraduate administration stuff). For that reason, we are not really buddies, so to speak.
I have mixed feelings about this email. On the one hand, I feel how thoughtful of her to think of me, but on the other hand, I feel "Is it funny? You don't seem to be very interested in my life for the past 7 years while I'm in the department and all of a sudden, you are interested now? Hum...."
Am I a bit cynical? Perhaps. Chris would probably say, "Why are you so mean? She just wants to know how you are doing and maybe wish you well."
Perhaps. But....I don't like it, to be frank. Other than wanting to find out about my plan, what is the purpose of this email? Is she going to offer me some travel advice? Is she going to offer me a job? What?
Hence, the title of this post: People are nosy. Good nosy, I appreciate; but this is a form of bad nosy, which I can do without.
By the way, I did reply her email very politely. =)
Dear Zooe,
How are you? I heard that you will be leaving our department after the contract ends, any new plan in your career?
Best,
xxx
xxx is one of the secretaries in our Department. I don't chit chat with her very often and for work purposes, we are in different areas (she manages postgraduate administration stuff). For that reason, we are not really buddies, so to speak.
I have mixed feelings about this email. On the one hand, I feel how thoughtful of her to think of me, but on the other hand, I feel "Is it funny? You don't seem to be very interested in my life for the past 7 years while I'm in the department and all of a sudden, you are interested now? Hum...."
Am I a bit cynical? Perhaps. Chris would probably say, "Why are you so mean? She just wants to know how you are doing and maybe wish you well."
Perhaps. But....I don't like it, to be frank. Other than wanting to find out about my plan, what is the purpose of this email? Is she going to offer me some travel advice? Is she going to offer me a job? What?
Hence, the title of this post: People are nosy. Good nosy, I appreciate; but this is a form of bad nosy, which I can do without.
By the way, I did reply her email very politely. =)
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
A friend's tale
In my last weekend update, I mentioned that I did manage to do other things in addition to dealing with my infection {the yeast kind}.
Well, one of the things that I did was meeting up with my old colleague / friend. We have become close friends and I value her friendship a lot. So, I actually hesitate to put her story here because well, even in this blog space, there is such a thing as privacy.
So yes, I am a person with boundaries.
Her story is not a happy one. I met up with her and we sat down for dinner. That was when she started telling me the story. She began with this...
Friend: I have good news.
Me: Oh yeah? What is it?
Friend: Divorce.
Me: What?
Friend: Yep, I'm getting a divorce.
Me: Why? What happened? {Yes typical me asking silly questions}
Friend: Well, domestic abuse and extramarital affair.
Me: {eyebrows raised}.......
Friend: And it's not just one girl, it's many many.
Me: Nooo....
You see, I've known this friend since our PhD days and even though she was always a little bit mysterious in the sense that she usually wouldn't tell you everything right way, she was never the type that would, in my mind, have such a story to tell.
She was very proper, punctual, and nice. Just an all around nice gal who has worked hard enough to deserve better. Much much better.
Without going into the details, I mean, if you watch any television or soap operas, you would be familiar with the details......the guy and his parents are pretty ^%!@#%$^&^*).
I am sad that this happened and my friend said to me, "Please, do not let this affect your wedding."
I know this may sound strange, but I wish my friend a speedy divorce, get away from this guy asap, and live a happy and normal life with her newborn and parents. That's what she needs right now.
Well, one of the things that I did was meeting up with my old colleague / friend. We have become close friends and I value her friendship a lot. So, I actually hesitate to put her story here because well, even in this blog space, there is such a thing as privacy.
So yes, I am a person with boundaries.
Her story is not a happy one. I met up with her and we sat down for dinner. That was when she started telling me the story. She began with this...
Friend: I have good news.
Me: Oh yeah? What is it?
Friend: Divorce.
Me: What?
Friend: Yep, I'm getting a divorce.
Me: Why? What happened? {Yes typical me asking silly questions}
Friend: Well, domestic abuse and extramarital affair.
Me: {eyebrows raised}.......
Friend: And it's not just one girl, it's many many.
Me: Nooo....
You see, I've known this friend since our PhD days and even though she was always a little bit mysterious in the sense that she usually wouldn't tell you everything right way, she was never the type that would, in my mind, have such a story to tell.
She was very proper, punctual, and nice. Just an all around nice gal who has worked hard enough to deserve better. Much much better.
Without going into the details, I mean, if you watch any television or soap operas, you would be familiar with the details......the guy and his parents are pretty ^%!@#%$^&^*).
I am sad that this happened and my friend said to me, "Please, do not let this affect your wedding."
I know this may sound strange, but I wish my friend a speedy divorce, get away from this guy asap, and live a happy and normal life with her newborn and parents. That's what she needs right now.
Monday, May 20, 2013
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