Lunch with the married couple

I recently had lunch with a newly wed couple. She's my friend from university and we've stayed in touch for well, more than a decade now.

She got married this past September and flew to my part of the world to host another banquet.  I couldn't make it, so we met for lunch.

I pretty much interviewed her and her husband on the whole process of their wedding preparation.  They had 3 different wedding celebrations in different locations (families are everywhere) and they flew to a 4th location for their wedding pictures.

Mind blowing, I know.  So I asked them how and how much!

The husband told me that "You need to learn to delegate because you simply cannot do everything yourself."  To which the wife replied, "Yeah and this was hard for me since I'm a control freak.  I don't like to bother people if I can take care of it myself."

She added, "I began to lose my hair because I was so stressed."  Omg!

He also said that most people like to have some time to plan the wedding after the proposal, but the fact of the matter is that, as he realized, the shorter the planning (waiting) time, the better.  "The more time you have simply means you have more time to stress."

He said, "It's like a band-aid. After the proposal, you just want to have the wedding as soon as possible.  We waited for a year because my wife wanted more time.  But actually, I think we could get everything done in 5 to 6 months.  Less time, less stress."

I thought that was pretty cool.

Obviously, the spent a substantial amount on the wedding.  Their wedding picture vacation alone is nearly one month of my salary.  At the end, they were just so tired to making decisions and if money would solve the problem, they paid.  They initially had a budget, but they went over it, but it wasn't too crazy.

Hum......sure sounds like a lot of work just to get married.

Do you feel the same after getting married?  "Yeah, nothing's really changed.  It's all just the process.  Once it's done, we are back to us."

When's the kid coming? "He's ready to have kids, but I'm not.  It's all the same.  After marriage, then it's kids, then it's death."

What?  Why so gloomy, friend???