The 'marrying urge'

One of our friends is in a bit of a limbo, relationship wise.

His girlfriend (actually, they are in the it's-complicated phase now, but we will just go with the gf title since we are hopeful of the relationship) asked Chris for help in saving their 6 year relationship.  It came in the form of a text message, which I read, and I was so heartbroken afterwards. 

Basically, the guy had the urge to marry the girl last year; however, the family on the girl's side did not really approve, so the proposal never took place. 

Now, their story is particularly dear to me because both Chris and I are part of their story.  We helped the guy to pick out the engagement ring.  We spent the weekend walking everywhere, the major stores, checking out diamond rings and found one.  So, we were very much part of the plan. 

I even tried on the ring myself and even though it was not my style, I am CERTAIN that any girl will be very happy receiving it.  So, all three of us were so giddy and excited at the time.  This was about a year ago.  Our friend was planning to propose after the New Year around February.  But it never happened.

So, for this whole year, their relationship was sort of in this limbo.  The girl told us that she did not want to give up on their relationship yet.  The guy, on the other hand, felt that the girl has become more like a 'family member' to him and therefore, had lost the urge to marry. 

Yeah, I know, 'family member' was a big stab to the heart.  Not the best thing to hear when you're in that kind of situation. 

So I asked whether Chris will get involved and help them. 

He said: Of course, he's my bro.
Me: Sure.  But is she the one?
Chris: I dont' know.
Me: Hum.....

My point is that, if we can be certain that she is THE ONE, then of course, we should help.  However, if our friend no longer feels that she is the one anymore, then it really begs the question whether we should get involved in the potentially very messy situation.

But Chris is very good at handling these kinds of things, so I have no doubt some good will come out of it.  But poor girl!  My heart definitely goes out to her.  I know it must be tough for her right now.